Disintegrating Your Child
In a sci-fi movie, a disintegration gun makes someone disappear. If parents aren't careful, they can make their child disappear. Mark had two stepdaughters, 38 and 42 years old, who still relied on their mother for financial assistance. He hoped to retire, but his wife wouldn't let him because the girls needed money. Here's the deal: A good way to make a child dysfunctional is to over function in their space. Don't do that. Let them carry their own load or you'll pay for it and so will they.
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About the Guest
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In a sci-fi movie, a disintegration gun makes someone disappear. If parents aren't careful, they can make their child disappear. Mark had two stepdaughters, 38 and 42 years old, who still relied on their mother for financial assistance. He hoped to retire, but his wife wouldn't let him because the girls needed money. Here's the deal: A good way to make a child dysfunctional is to over function in their space. Don't do that. Let them carry their own load or you'll pay for it and so will they.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
Ron: Be careful parents. You might disintegrate your child.
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: In a sci-fi movie, a disintegration gun makes someone disappear. If parents aren’t careful, they can make their child disappear. Mark had two stepdaughters, 38 and 42 years old, who were still relying on their mother—and now Mark—for financial assistance. He was hoping to retire, but his wife wouldn’t let him because the girls needed money.
Okay, here’s the deal: A good way to make a child dysfunctional is to over function in their space. You make who they are disintegrate. Don’t do that. Let them carry their own load in life or you’ll pay for it for a long time. And so will they. For FamilyLife Blended, I’m Ron Deal.
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