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The Responsibilities of a Wife


 By Jayna Richardson


Many of us have heard tales of a torture method called “water torture.” Presumably, the victim is restrained while water slowly drips onto his forehead. Eventually, the incessant dripping on the same spot over and over drives the victim insane. Are these stories true? Possibly. But what does this have to do with marriage?

Proverbs 19:13 says, “A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.” Our bad attitudes, nagging, and negative comments can become like a continual drip-drip-drip to our husbands. It’s no surprise that this concept is parallel to a method of torture!

Most of us don’t go into marriage devising ways to make life difficult for our husbands. But few couples realize that with those words “I do” come some very serious new responsibilities. But what are these responsibilities?

Luckily, we aren’t left without some guidance in this area. The Bible gives plenty of guidelines to show us how to have a happy marriage and to fulfill our responsibilities to love, support, and respect our husbands.

The book of Titus admonishes the older women to teach the younger women how to love their husbands. You might say, “But why would someone need to be taught how to love? Doesn’t love come naturally?” Not always. Try inserting your name into these verses to see how well you measure up:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

The truth is, we could all use some help in this area!

Loving also requires being physically responsive to our husbands. A good example of a romantic and responsive wife is the Shulamite woman in Song of Solomon. She says, “I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me. Come, my lover, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards… there I will give you my love.” (7:10-12).

Another responsibility for wives involves supporting our husbands. Men and women are of equal value and importance, but God has designed us for different tasks. When God created Eve for Adam, He referred to her as Adam’s “helper.” Every husband needs the loving support of his wife if he’s going to be everything God created him to be. Proverbs 31:10-12 says, “An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”

Finally, the Bible is clear that we are to respect our husbands (Ephesians 5:33). When a wife respects her husband, she demonstrates to him that she understands his pressures and needs, and that she admires and has confidence in him. This boosts his confidence, which makes him more able and willing to be a godly servant-leader.

We’re all going to have plenty of opportunities in our marriages to choose between being a constant dripping of negativity and showing our husbands love, support, and respect. Resolve not to “water torture” your husband, but instead be a refreshing and uplifting friend and helper.


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