People are often surprised
to find out that God approves of romance and sex. But
God doesn’t just approve of it, He created it for
marriage and He encourages it! That’s one reason why He
devoted an entire book of the Bible, Song of Solomon, to
the theme of romantic love between a husband and wife.
Song of Solomon 1:5 says, “Drink and imbibe deeply, O
lovers.” To imbibe means to take in, or absorb. God is
inviting us not just to participate in intimacy, but to
drink in and enjoy this gift of romantic love that He
offers all married couples!
Too often, couples become
bored in their relationships because they do little to
keep passionate romance alive. It does take time and
energy, but the joy you can experience through having an
intimate and exciting relationship with your spouse is
well worth the investment. Still, many of us can use
some help getting started in this area. So here are ten
creative ways to add some sugar and spice to your
1. Put the kids to bed
early, and get all dressed up for a candle-lit dinner at
home. Play soft music and prepare something to eat that
you both really like. Make the effort to look especially
nice for your spouse!
2. Take a walk at night,
holding hands. Stop to look at the stars, and pick out
“your” star. Then whenever you see that star in the sky
from now on, think about your spouse.
3. Pretend you each have
five wishes. Take turns telling each other what you’d
wish for. While you probably won’t be able to grant
these wishes, let these ideas be inspiration for
something special you can do for your spouse.
4. Think of ten things you
love about your spouse, and write those in a love
letter. You don’t have to sound like Shakespeare; if
it’s sincere, your spouse will think it’s the best thing
5. Give each other massages.
If you want to make it extra special, find a book that
teaches how to give massages, and buy massage oil.
6. Wives: Ask you husband to
pick out something for you to wear to bed.
7. Husbands: Spend time just
holding, cuddling, and talking to your wife without
8. Find a gift box or bag
that you can pass back and forth to each other with
small presents inside (this can include candy, a
meaningful letter, tickets to a show – anything at all).
Don’t let your spouse know when you’re going to give a
gift – let the surprise be part of the fun!
9. On a warm, sunny day,
spread out a blanket in a shady spot in the grass
somewhere nearby – maybe even in your own yard! – and
have a picnic lunch. After you eat, lie down on the
blanket and look at the sky. Try to find shapes in the
clouds. This should open the door to some interesting
10. Make a coupon book for
your spouse. Include coupons for things he likes to do
(such as eat at a nice restaurant) or things you will do
for him (such as wash the car). Allow him to redeem the
coupons whenever he likes.
Remember that the best
inspiration we have for creativity is God. He created
everything, so He is the master of creativity! Pray that
He will help you to learn ways to please your spouse and
keep your relation